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The day we became exclusive means more than our wedding day. 

When I think back to that summer, when we became exclusive, it was terrifying.

The day we became exclusive means more to me than our wedding day.

“It may seem strange to some, that the day I became his girlfriend holds more weight than the day I became his wife, but let me explain.”

If you’re married, when you think of your anniversary, you probably think of your wedding day. As time goes by, we tend to forget all of the little anniversaries or the smaller moments like your first kiss and first date. For me, my wedding day is special, but not as special as the day we decided to become exclusive. My husband and I are about to celebrate that anniversary soon, it’ll be 13 years since we became a couple. And I hold that day very close to my heart. It may seem strange to some, that the day I became his girlfriend holds more weight than the day I became his wife, but let me explain. 

“We were young, dumb, and not really sure about much, but we took a chance on each other.”

My husband and I have known each other for years. We knew each other since junior high school and stayed friends throughout high school. We dated other people and remained just friends for years. I ended my relationship with my high school boyfriend and soon after my husband and I started dating. I knew I had no business dating so soon after a breakup but I went along anyway. To make a long story short, it took a lot of bravery for me to jump back into dating, since I had such a terrible breakup. I was determined to break hearts so that I would never endure a broken heart again. I was a wreck. But I feel like, the day we decided to really give our relationship a chance, to really take it seriously, it took a lot of faith and courage from both of us. We were young, dumb, and not really sure about much, but we took a chance on each other. Every one told us we were too young, that it was just puppy love, but still, we did what we wanted. 

“When I think back to that summer, when we became exclusive, it was terrifying.”

We were only 17, so it felt like the world was against us. 9 years later, on our wedding day, I didn’t need to be brave. I wasn’t taking a chance, the world wasn’t against us, we weren’t young and dumb. Getting married was well thought out, well planned, and we took our time. I’m not saying marriage is a guarantee, but what I am saying is, I knew he would be there at the end of the isle. I knew our family and friends supported us. It was effortless. When I think back to that summer, when we became exclusive, it was terrifying. If it wasn’t for that day, there wouldn’t be any other anniversaries. My wedding day, will always have a special place in my heart, but I feel like that day…we were announcing to every one that we were serious, we were now husband and wife. I felt like we stood there to prove to everyone what we had already felt all along. But that day way way back when he asked “Would you be my girlfriend?” that was between us, that was for us.

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