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5 Couples Share How Their Relationship Survived Infidelity.

5 couples share how they overcame infidelity.

Infidelity is probably the most requested topic from my followers and it’s something I am always on the fence with. Personally, it’s a deal breaker for me because I have rarely seen relationships improve after such a hard hit. But 5 couples were brave enough to share their stories below to show another side of it. Take a look at how they made their relationships work after one partner was caught cheating.

Couple 1.

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Her side:

“I had to really make the decision to forgive instead of becoming his warden or looking over his shoulder. Of course, I didn’t want to be a fool or be taken for granted again. But I made the choice to let our relationship start over. We reset everything. He needed to do right by me but I also had to give him the space to do that. I set the bar for the way I wanted to be treated and I stopped letting things slide but most importantly I didn’t do this angrily. I knew that I wanted this to work out, but I had it in my mind and in my heart that if it didn’t, I at least gave it a second chance. I wanted it to work, but if it didn’t, I knew I would leave. I think he felt that.”

His side:

“She was hurt, but not angry and that shocked me. I kept waiting for her to burn my clothes or something. But just looking in her eyes, from that day on she was a different woman. I knew this was my last chance. I didn’t want to lose her. So, like she said, we reset our relationship. We started going to church together and surrounded ourselves with other happily married couples. We spent more time together. It was a wake up call for me, that I didn’t cheat because of something she was doing wrong, I had stopped trying and working on us and I didn’t want to lose her.”

Couple two:

Her side:

“I immediately moved out. I know, it probably doesn’t make sense. But I needed to come to terms with what he did and I didn’t want to scream and throw things at him everyday. I cooled off for a few weeks. When I finally decided to talk to him again, I said if we’re going to fix this, we are doing it right. This would be the last shot. We went to couple’s therapy for months before I even took him seriously again. After about a year, we started dating all over again. I took my time and rekindled things when I felt it was right. I didn’t want to run back because I was comfortable. I wanted to get back together if and only if we were better and happier. It’s been four years and we are back together but we still go to therapy once a month because I just think it’s good maintenance. We’re closer than ever before.”

His side:

“When she left, if I’m honest, I thought she would be back in a few days. When she put her foot down and set rules and therapy sessions I was pissed. But with out her, my life sucked. I eventually realized through therapy that I was surrounded by a lot of people that were not right for me. I gave up a lot of friendships and bad habits. I’m a better husband and father now. I just stopped being a child. I never knew faithful men growing up, and even though that was my reason for cheating, at a certain age it’s just an excuse. I should know better. My wife has been there for me way more than a lot of these people I was hurting her over. It just took me too long to figure it out.”

Couple three:

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Her side:

“I left him. There was no doubt in my mind that we were done. We had a toddler at the time, but I didn’t care because I didn’t want our child to see me cry everyday and us fighting constantly. It sucked—-being apart and trying to be parents. He tried everything that guys usually do—-flowers, gifts, letters. If I’m honest, I was tempted to take him back just for the sake of our child. But I didn’t want to do what so many people around me do and just stay together for our baby. We ended it for a year, almost 2. We fought a lot. But then one day he sat me down, and told me everything—-all the times he cheated, how he got away with it, why he cheated. I never cried so much in my life. He said he wanted to change but that meant everything had to change. So he went back to school, got a better job, took up this new health kick and gave up smoking and drinking, he stopped hanging out with the guys he used to and he was different. I think he needed time. I think he needed to grow up with out pressure from me, he needed to do it for himself.”

His side:

“I cheated because I thought that was my lifestyle, that it was just who I was. I cheated because in my group of friends, you weren’t a man if you didn’t have a side chick or two. The more women you could juggle the better example of a man you’d be. But when my wife left me, I started to see a pattern. I was doing the same thing to my wife that men had done to my mother. She raised me alone and here I was, breaking up a happy home. Picking up and dropping off my kid instead of kissing her goodnight or being there when she woke up was killing me. I didn’t have a relationship with my father. Yet here I was becoming more and more like the man I hated so much for hurting my mother. Here I was hurting a woman as strong and loving as my mother. I just woke up. I didn’t look back after that.”

Couple four:

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Her side:

“My husband cheated on me a few times and each time I forgave him. My family and my friends told me I would be an idiot to divorce him because he had a great job, we had a beautiful house and a baby. So I kept putting up with it. A few years after, I found out he was cheating on me again. And this time we had more bills and more kids. It was even harder to think about leaving him. But I couldn’t take it anymore. I demanded that we went to church and my church offered counseling. And even though I’m not proud of it, I check everything! I check his phone and emails. I know where he is and who is with. It’s been years since I’ve even suspected him of cheating again, but I need to be sure. I don’t think it’s something I can ever be trusting about again.”

His side:

“I was never proud that I cheated on my wife. I always hoped one day I’d just stop and she’d be enough. I love her and I’m confused until this day why I was hurting her. Going to church and counseling especially the sessions where my kids were involved made me realize I had a serious problem. I let her check everything. I let her know everything. I’m not mad at her for wanting to be sure.”

Couple five:

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Her side:

“When I found out my husband was cheating on me, I was so shocked. I never thought I would be able to stay with him. But I have known him since I was a child. I was so in love with him. I didn’t understand why this happened. We tried counseling but all it did was make us fight more because we kept blaming each other. After years of trying different things and breaking up and making up, we finally realized we BOTH needed to make drastic changes. We survived infidelity because we worked on ourselves before we worked on our relationship. I was allowing him to treat me the way he was and he was allowing other people to get into his head. We started working out together, traveling more, and became spiritual. We are two different people but we are so happy now.”

His side:

“The best thing she ever did was give me space after I cheated on her. I know it sounds crazy. Most women would hover over a man that cheated on them and check their every move. I really needed to change my life and get rid of all of the toxic people and things in my life. She’s my best friend and biggest supporter. Together we just do great things. We bought a house, have two amazing kids, and are on our way to starting a business together. I’m in a different head space. I needed to grow up and when I saw what I was about to lose, I knew I didn’t want to be with out her.”

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